Before we had Rose, I had always swore that we wouldn’t use a binky with “our baby”. Oh no. No binky would touch the lips of our precious children. I had seen too many children (children not babies) walking around with pacifiers in their mouths, taking them out to have a conversation with their parents. I just “knew” that I wouldn’t let that have a chance of happening. Yaaaaaah. So all that conviction was thrown in the garbage after the multi episode, multi hour, cry fests that Rose would do those first few weeks. When she was in the NICU, they gave her a pacifier as they couldn’t be holding her 24/7 with wires/tubes/uv light. Out of desperation, I tried one of the pacifiers that she came home with and sweet lord there was silence. Silence and a happy baby. We never looked back.
She wasn’t allowed to take it everywhere. She mostly used it for naps and bed time and never really grew terribly attached. Once her 1 year birthday rolled around and it was time to stop giving her a pacifier, we simply stopped giving it to her and it was like she never used it. Wonderful!
When Evelyn was born we didn’t even think twice before starting her with a binky. We even used a Wabbanub which was even better (side note: those Wabbanubs are a wonderful invention. You can use the animal on the end of prop it up and in the babies mouth when they are too small to keep it in). She only had it when she was sleeping so I figured dropping it when she was 1 would be as easy as with Rose. However, once her birthday rolled around, she was popping through some molars and used the binky as a soothing devise as she fell asleep. So I put it off. No big deal right? Thing was, I started to notice that when it came to putting Evelyn down for sleep, she would just about leap out of my arms into the crib. At first I thought this was great! No issues putting this baby down. Then I realized it was because she wanted to get that binky in her mouth as quickly as possible. Then she started to scream like you were kicking her favorite puppy when you made her drop it in the crib in the morning.
So two weeks ago we decided to stop the binky cold turkey. No binky at nap, no binky at bedtime. She took it great! Hahaha! Just kidding. She screamed her head off. She threw her lovey out of the crib in anger (we had been introducing a lovey in prep). She screamed some more. Then, 20 minutes in, she passed out.
Not a further peep was heard until her usual 3:30 wake up. Instead of scrounging around for her binky and falling back asleep, it was scrounge around for binky, realize it wasn’t there, then scream her head off. Luckily that lasted only 5 minutes before she passed out again. Then she slept in to 7:30. Score! The nap was a little harder but she fell asleep in about 10 minutes and then cried off and on for about an hour and a half. The next night she went down in 5 minutes.
Now, if she isn’t really tired, she will cry for about a minute before snuggling with her lovey and falling asleep. This really isn’t any different then with the binky so yay success! She also learned quickly that if she throws the lovey out in anger the lovey doesn’t come back. No lovey throwing has happened since. 🙂
The very best side effect of having her give up the binky is that now, as you are putting her down for the night, she will gladly snuggle in your arms as you sing to her. Not much is better then baby arms clutched around your neck with a baby head snuggled on your shoulder. Sure it’s more like a death grip because she is trying to avoid going into the crib but I’ll cry ignorance and enjoy it.