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Making Changes

For almost 3.5 years now Rose (and now Evelyn) have been going to the same daycare.  Jenny was a family friend and we knew she did in home care so when it came time to look around and pick a place for Rose she was already on the list.  We looked at big places, we looked at small places, we looked at expensive places and we looked at cheap places but we always came back to her.  She had been my mom’s friend since she was a Care Bear (teaching assistant) through her high school in my mom’s classroom.  While I had only met her during social things, I figured my mom’s judge of character was pretty good.  Plus, I had met and liked her kids which I think says a lot about a children’s caregiver.

This was one of the best decisions we could have made for Rose (and eventually Evelyn).  While my working mommy guilt would never leave, it made my heart feel good to know that she was being “raised” during the day in such a loving environment.  By loving I mean that she truly loves my kids.  And her family loves my kids.  And they love them in return.  It’s like they were being cared for by family without them actually being family.  I can’t tell you have many times Rose would just about kick me out the door in the morning and cry when she had to leave.  It was like pulling teeth to get her out the door.  Heck, last night she spent the night at “her Nenny’s” house just because.  If there is anyone in the area that needs childcare or after school care for their kids, her house is the place to be!

Rose and her “Nenny” at Rose’s 2nd Birthday Party

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And now for the big “However”.  However, when my mom retired, she started to take Rose for the day here and there.  Then it was a steady one day a week.  Then it was two.  Then she started to take Evelyn one day a week…. You see where this is going.  My mom decided a month or so ago that she wanted to watch the girls every day during the week.  She will get to watch her granddaughters grow every day and be able to help in shaping their sharp little minds.  She was a fabulous teacher to a classroom full of elementary school children and I know that she is going to be a fabulous teacher in her new little classroom of two.  She is already planning all of the “field trips” and such she is going to take them on.  Luckily for her, my dad is understanding of her desire to do this.  Of course it helps a little that he adores his granddaughters.

So with a heavy heart, today was the last day I picked my girls up from Jenny’s house.  I won’t lie and say that a tear didn’t fall as I drove away.  Luckily it will not be the last time Jenny and her family will be in my kids life, through parties, babysitting and hopefully her being available when my parents are on vacation, there will be more “Nenny, Megan, Kelly, and B” times to be had.

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Thoughts of a working mother

Being a working mother sometimes reminds me of how women with curly hair often wish it was straight and women with straight hair wish it was curly.  When I’m at work I miss my little girl like crazy and wish I could be home with her.  When I’m home with her for a week I start to wonder how the stay at home parents don’t go absolutely nuts.  I love my daughter to death but after a week straight of ‘Mom! Mom! Mom! Mom! Mom! x 3,000’ I’m thinking of investing in ear plugs.  I am not sure if I have the patience that it takes to stay at home with her all the time.  The toddlerness really tests my temper at times.

I also get restless and miss the adult interaction of the work environment.  A lot of my identity comes from what I do and I have a lot of pride in being an engineer. I know what I do will give my daughter a good example that she can be whatever she wants to be.

Plus, there is the biggest elephant in the room, money.  I posted a while ago about what the money I bring home provides for my daughter.  Without the hours I put in, the stress of balancing a demanding career and a demanding toddler and the terrible loneliness I feel sometime when I am sitting at my desk and know it will be a hours before I can wrap my arms around my little girl, I would never be able to have my daughter live in an place that will provide her a childhood full of natural wonders.

And, there is always that feeling that no matter how wonderful my daughters daycare is (and they are wonderful), if she was home with me, she would be learning all of my mannerisms, my expressions, my idiosyncrasies.  I would be the one helping to shape her personality for more than a few hours during the weekdays.  I would be in charge of every little thing that goes in her mouth and in her ears.

Most of me knows that she is happy and healthy and loved.  Most of me knows that my working is best for our family financially.  Most of me knows that I would be restless and unhappy at home all the time.  It’s that little part, deep down inside.  That little part that pokes me in the heart when I watch my daughter laugh over silly things or give me a hug and tell me she loves me just because.  That little part that wishes…..

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Reason #358 I love Rose’s Daycare

I received this in my email yesterday.

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Reason #183 why I love Rose’s daycare.

I get photos like this sent to me at work.

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