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A letter to my post pregnancy hair

Dear Post Pregnancy Hair,

What.  The.  Heck.  Why in the world would you feel the need to change so much just because there was a minor (major) shift in my hormones.  Seriously what in Darwin’s law decided that the hormones required for baby making would also determine so much about how you look.  Before my first pregnancy, you were fairly straight all over.  Sure there was a hint of a wave but nothing that didn’t dry straight without the aid of a blow drier.  Now….  Now you curl like you were in hot rollers in one strategic area in the back of my head and the rest of you is as straight as an arrow.  Let me tell you, that is a lovely look.  NOT!  If I let you air dry, it looks like I put curly hair extensions back there and forgot to curl the rest of my hair to match.  You started to do this after the birth of my first child and I held out the vain hope that the second pregnancy would fix it or at least not make it worse but nooooooo, you had to get even curlier didn’t you.

The center-back of my hair.  Lovely curls.

 
The front-top of my hair. Iron board straight.
And the falling out you are doing?  Let’s talk about that.  Is this pay back for growing as fast as you did while I was pregnant?  You grew so long and fast when I was pregnant with Rose that I donated a bunch and still had plenty of length left over.  I remember this same thing starting about 3 months after Rose was born but I must have had a touch of PSD and buried most of the memory as I don’t remember it being this bad.  And for so long.  When I take my hair out of a ponytail at the end of the day just running my hands through you can give me enough hair to knit Evelyn a sweater.  Maybe that’s why?  Is this an evolutionary thing created to give mothers something to keep our babies warm with??? 
Google says that mothers are just loosing what they didn’t loose during pregnancy but I have to disagree with that.  There is no way that I am normally this bald.  I’m down to about half the amount I had 2 months ago and I don’t see the end yet.  My temples are looking decidedly thin and now top of my head looks a bit like a chia pet with all the new growth coming in at the same time.  Not cool!  Bottom line, postpartum hair loss, you suck.
 
Please stop.  My vacuum is begging you.
 
Your partially curly haired, partially bald owner,
Valerie

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The second time around

As the days before Evelyn’s birth pass by, I’ve begun reflecting on the differences between the my pregnancy with Rose and my pregnancy with Evelyn.  There are the obvious differences, a longer morning (or evening in my case) sickness period, aches and pains starting earlier, various parts of my body “remembering” what size they need to be for the pregnancy/baby and starting the process earlier (and to a greater degree).  But the most interesting change between the two is purely emotional and mental.

With Rose, I was focused every minute of every day on the changes going on with my body.  I anxiously awaited the passing of each week so that I could look up just what fruit or vegetable my precious baby girl was similar too in size and weight. Every twinge, every thump, and every hiccup was a sign that everything was still ok.  At all times at least some portion of my mind was on the alien creature inside of me.  Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t one of those pregnant ladies that relished every ache and pain.  I complained and commiserated with my fellow pregnant friends.  I was miserable in the early stages with nausea.  I was miserable in the late stages, anxious for relief from my giant heavy tummy.  I also had no idea what I was in for in the end.  Ha!  Still, a big part of my life revolved around my uterus.

36 weeks with Rose
36+week+belly

The second time around is quite different.  For one, I’ve been through it all before so I know what to expect.  Each new stage is more “oh yah, that” instead of “should I worry, do I need to call the doc, is this normal?”.  I worry less and just observe the aches and pains and changes in my body with a more detached air of inevitability.  They are just things that I have to live through in order to foster this new child within me.

Of course the biggest change is Rose.  I no longer can come home from a day at work and spend the rest of the evening on the couch, watching tv and eating whatever strikes my fancy.  Now my evenings are filled with cooking dinner for Rose, cleaning up after Rose, playing with Rose, giving Rose a bath, chasing after Rose when it’s time for bed, and spending the half an hour or so it takes to get her to finally go to sleep.  It’s no wonder that I have gained less weight with this pregnancy.  By the time she is in bed I’m too tired to make myself something evil to eat.  I spend large amounts of my day not really consciously knowing I’m pregnant. Well, until Evelyn uses my bladder as an exercise ball and my rib cage as a balance beam.  Then I remember!

 Rose on her Evelyn perch

I am looking forward to the birth of Evelyn (well, not the birth part but having her healthy and in my arms) but I also remember the things that happen after.  The things I had heard about with Rose but didn’t really believe because I hadn’t experienced it.  The lingering pains, the sleepless nights, having to listen to crying that you sometimes can’t do anything to stop.  I haven’t figured out if it’s better or worse that I really know what’s going to happen.  🙂

This time I will have to go through it all with a 3 year old daughter that I need to make sure gets attention as well.  I know I can do it, but I also am dreading it a little.  Still, I have a wonderful network of friends and family around whom I know I can count on when it all gets too much so I need to just calm these raging pregnancy hormones down and just let it happen.

Finally, let me say that even though this is the second time around, this whole pregnancy thing still both fascinates me and weirds me out at the same time.  I mean, there is a person inside of me.
A person.
Who is alive.
And moving.
And leaching nutrients from my body to survive.
And was created by my body (with a little help from Steve).
My body created a person!  Besides half of her DNA, every cel in her ever growing body is created from me.  CRAZY!!

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Toddler fun and a pregnancy update

Rose’s imagination and language have been growing with leaps and bounds over the past few months.  She is playing with her toys in new ways and enjoying longer books.  It’s a kick in the pants to drive her home from daycare as there is a running commentary in the backseat on what she did during the day, food she wants to eat, and conversations with people who aren’t there (she does both side of the conversation).  Her sense of humor is expanding as well and she loves to tell ‘jokes’ and do silly things for a laugh.
Here’s some pictures of what she’s been up too.
Reading books with Nana.
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Wearing pretty dresses.
Kitty+Dress
Painting with water colors.
Water+Color
Playing ”Daddy Slide’.

Her language is getting better and better although I still don’t understand if half the time unless I can see the context in which she is talking.  In the video above I know that she is asking where ‘something’ went but I have no idea what.  🙂   Tigger?  Turtle?  Table?  Who knows.And now for the pregnancy update.  I’m 17 weeks along now and thank goodness, the ickyness is finally gone.  It was worse than with Rose and for a longer period of time.  Blech!My tummy popped out right at 14 weeks.   Seriously it was like I woke up one day and poof!  I did the whole ‘rubber band to modify the nonpregnancy pants’ thing for a two weeks but then got a few maternity pants from a friend.  Sweet relief!  Then I received a full load of maternity pants from the friend that I borrowed from last time.  Oh my.  Lets just say that from the time I had Rose the number of clothes increased by a weee bit.  I now have more maternity clothes in my closet then I had regular clothes.  Yay for borrowing from nice friends!  I spend the better part of Sunday sorting and washing and hanging.  Phew!

The first half.
Pregnancy+Clothes+1
A whole huge box to go!
Pregnancy+Clothes+2

On another pregnancy front, other pregnancy systems have started to set in.  The aches and pains of the lessening tendons and stretching belly are here in force.  I’m hungry all.the.time.  And it looks like ‘pregnancy brain’ is a true phenomenon.  I looked at my feet at 10 minutes to 5pm on Friday and saw this. 

Pregnancy+Shoes

Yep, two different shoes.  Two different colors.  At least they were both flats. 🙂  Then on Saturday I had locked the door and was halfway to my car to run errands when I realized I didn’t have shoes on at all.  My friend pointed out that I don’t even have the excuse that I can’t see my feet anymore.  Imagine me at 9 months!

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